You're allowed to scream, you're allowed to cry but do not give up.
What can we do? Become a hero or shero
I've driven through deadly blizzards in both Oregon and The Rocky's and this summer I drove through emotional fire. The only thing that's ever kept me going is caring for someone else, and I believe this is true for most people. As a general rule, I will move mountains to help someone else before I will myself (I'm trying to change that but it's a process). And from what I've witnessed, this is pretty typical human behavior.
I didn't come into my line of work because one day I decided I loved kittens and puppies and cotton candy and all things magical and wanted to make this my job, this mission was thrown at me when I was trying to save my soul kitty companion, Holly's life. I needed to save the person who saved me. One night, years ago, when I decided to leave my life in Hollywood behind and I felt all alone. I was sat looking out the window questioning what I had to live for, she approached me, put her paw on my leg and said "me." She kept me alive that night.
I'm not an expert, and I have zero education on this topic except for the Ph.D. I have in my own life and what I've witnessed in others. When we ask ourselves "Who needs me?" it can body slam us out of victim and into hero. And if we can't be our hero, we can usually always do that for someone else, and that's a start. Go to someone else's fire and help nurse their wounds.
Years ago I dated a man with debilitating Multiple Sclerosis that suffered from so much pain it would cripple his hands and legs. He would fly into natural disaster sites, set up a large tent and cook food for people who had lost everything. It brought him happiness giving to those in need. It also gave him an active community of people who loved him and surrounded him with thanks and praise and most of all; it gave him purpose and took the mind of his pain.
My brother, Matt, has been on three campaigns with Sea Shepherd. He joined them as a crew member when his marriage began to fall apart, hated his job and needed more in life. Being on a ship with a group of people saving ocean life is a pretty damn powerful way of finding purpose, connection, and lifelong friendships. Saving someone else's life can save your own.